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Will getting divorced make me happier?


Published: 3rd December 2007 - Category: Separation and Divorce - Author: Lynne Bastow

That depends on why you are getting divorced and how unhappy you are now. Only you know the answer to this.

Many people dither for years thinking life on the other side of unhappy coupledom will be worse. Perhaps it will but to a very large extent that is your choice. Most people who contact me some time after their divorce talk of a feeling of relief and do not regret breaking up an unhappy home.

When a divorce is the right decision:

  1. If you are scared of your partner.
  2. If your partner is scared of you.
  3. If you loath your partner and his/her breathing or laugh or mannerisms makes you want to scream or hit him/her.
  4. If you would rather perform some unpleasant duty than go home to your partner and this happens a lot.
  5. If you are in love with someone else.
  6. If your partner is in love with someone else.
  7. If you have fantasies of your partner dying.
  8. If you have fantasies of dying yourself and it has got nothing to do with work related stress or any other issue but simply a wish to escape your partner (this is extremely serious by the way and you should seek help from your doctor immediately).

If any of the above apply to you then divorcing will make you less unhappy – however being happy depends on the rest of your life and takes work.

When a divorce maybe the right decision:

  1. You treat your partner with a lack of respect.
  2. Your partner treats you with a lack of respect.
  3. You are having an affair or meaningless fling with someone else.
  4. Your partner is having an affair or meaningless fling with someone else.
  5. You are lonely in your marriage.
  6. Your partner is lonely in your marriage.
  7. You are bored – big time bored – not just a bit restless.
  8. Ditto your partner is bored as in 7 above.

If any of the above apply then a careful analysis of any possible solutions such as attending counselling or changing something is needed before going ahead. Divorce may be the result but it will probably be followed by a period of guilt and ultimate happiness depends on how you choose to live your single life. Divorce in the above scenario may make you less unhappy.

Lynne Bastow Divorce Solicitor

Meet Lynne Bastow

With over 16 years experience, Lynne can provide excellent and valuable advice and has a friendly, positive approach towards all her clients, ensuring you get the best service possible.

Read Lynne's Books

If you need more information on divorce, Lynne has published two informative guides on divorce, which you can purchase from Amazon.

The Little Book of Divorce

The Little Book of Divorce

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The Little Book of Divorce Dilemmas

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