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Bitterly regret the waste of your best years?

Published: 6th June 2007 - Category: Bastow Blogs - Author: Lynne Bastow

It’s my birthday today!

As I was walking to Court yesterday I was thinking about my age and contemplating that I was fast approaching the stage when women become invisible. Right on cue 2 builders shouted out some lewd remarks at me. At the age of 19 I would have been irritated by their sexist comments. As a mother of a 19 year old daughter I was flattered. Flattered but not bothered. I was starting to understand Germaine Greer’s theory of female ageing.

People often take longer to get over their divorce because they are bitter that their ex has taken the best years of their lives and then dumped them. Rather than moving on and embracing the pleasures of each decade they look back with regret that their best years have been diminished.

Accepting that each decade supplies its own pleasures and rewards and seeking them out is the key to resolving this battle with your lost past. It’s not wasted or ruined it’s simply gone. As is everyone else’s. All you have is now, and perhaps tomorrow, and the only thing preventing you making this the best year of your life is your own perception.

I’m not saying I’m looking forward to spending Sunday afternoons at the garden centre but it is on my radar!

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