This is probably not your intention when you fall into an accidental affair but it is a guaranteed result. The same as drunk drivers don’t mean to maim and kill pedestrians, it is simply an unintended consequence of their reckless and selfish act.
It should be reasonably foreseeable, to even the least educated and gifted intellectually, that deceiving your partner by indulging in intimate acts with another individual is going to cause pain.
What to do when temptation looms?
- Go for a run or take up a sport or regular exercise.
- Change the situation so that you do not come into contact with the individual concerned.
- Once you have not seen the object of your desire for 6 months re-assess how you feel. If your hormones are still raging, tell your spouse it is over, move out and then move on.
It is like driving when you want to turn right – mirror, signal, manoeuvre, get it the wrong way round and there will be a crash!